Dr. Mike Mayer Psychologist & Motivational Speaker

Don't bite off more than you can chew? When is too much too much? Slow down and enjoy some what what you have bitten off.

Try a new approach, brain store new solutions, get advice and grow yourself. Doing the same thing that did not work last time will not make your problems go away.

Are you taking the steps to have friends and to be one. Friendship starts with liking ourselves, it continues with several steps including choosing your friends wisely, listening and reaching out. Learn more...

When we put positive actions into the world are we putting an extension of our selves out there for others? We all want to reach a goal, do a good deed, relaxing and enjoying life. How can we be the positive in our lives?

Challenge your preconceived actions, habits and even figures of speech. Do not assume because you believe something that it is true for others? What are the appropriate boundaries in love?

Get the most happiness out of life. Take a picture a day of something that brings you happiness. Surround yourself with joyous people. Start conversations with power leads that spark positive conversation vs venting. Stop waiting for XYZ to happy before you can be happy. Focus on the now.

Memory is a significant part of our daily lives.  We can influence what we remember in the future.  We can re-remember the positive to help us have a productive future.

There is self confidence in general and then there is self confidence in specific situations.  What we learn about ourselves growing up greatly influences our views on our selves and our self confidence.

Where does it come from and where do we need to practice it.  Respect is earned and not just given.  The difficult lesson is that we must give respect to receive respect.   Are we bias in who we respect?

Some days we feel like we do and some days we don't.  Some times you have to face diversity before you can know if you have it.  Keep moving forward towards our goals.

Follow these 8 principles to remain unhappy and continue to be miserable.  Change these negative patterns to be happier and more content with life.   Considering these lists could change your path.  

Changing behaviors can help you lead a better and more content life. 1) Need to want to change and must involve intellect, body, emotions and even your spiritual motives.  2) Knowing what specifically needs to change, what is driving our anger or our obsessions.  3) Follow through with a doable plan to create a new habit. 4) Validate out successes by truly feeling the joy.  5)  Review what worked and get through blocks that keep us from succeeding.

When we look at relationships closely we see that someone or something is influencing our emotions in one way or another.  Find the good in every relationship you choose to participate in.   Learn to tolerate others differences as well as your own.  Make your own meaningful and rewarding relationships in life.

Re-frame and manage disappointment and aversion. See setbacks as opportunities. See failure as an event not an identity. Be open to new information and be willing to change your mind. Create a habit to motivate yourself.

To live a life that is less reactive it is necessary to put the Ego in it's place.  View situations with clarity.  It takes two to do this but it has to start somewhere.  This podcast looks at the Spotlight Effect, Egocentric Behavior and Self Awareness.

Things to avoid and things to embrace to find the peace and contentment we all deserve.  Focus on purpose. We all have something to offer the world.  Try these tips to work towards a better life.

How has your past influenced you?  The past is there to learn from to help you get the most from the present.  Do you use the present wisely?  Is your present life preparing you for the future?

We are the ones that individually decide who we will respect.  Are we respecting more people or fewer people? Is our personal criteria more stringent or are there fewer people deserving of our respect?  Respect is earned not just given, yet we need to give respect to receive respect. Respect does not necessarily require agreement.

What concerns can you talk out with your confident?  Are they a sounding board or an adviser?  Find potential solutions, relieve concerns and stress while building trust with a confidant.  Confidentiality and trust are key.

Do we repeat the past in the present?  Why do we respond the way we do?