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With great power comes great responsibility…or something like that. The weight of the responsibility a Dom carries can sometimes feel like pressure, so let’s talk about it. But it’s worth noting that the power... The post The Pressures and Privileges of Dominance appeared first on Loving BDSM.

After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication. Here’s... The post Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Anyone and everyone can experience imposter syndrome. While it’s most common in professional settings, it’s definitely possible in personal situations – like your kink life. In this episode: The Kinkery exists! What is imposter... The post Imposter Syndrome in Power Exchange and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re willing to bet that this question comes up more than some Dominants are willing to admit. Here’s the full question: What should you do if you’re a dom who doesn’t want to take... The post Q&A: What If a Dom Doesn’t Always Want to Lead? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we react/respond to BDSM questions shared on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Oh yeah, Kayla has a vanilla Etsy shop that’s book-themed. If you’re into that kind of thing.... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating... The post Q&A: When is the Right Time to Meet in Real Life? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re letting Therapy Jeff tell us what to talk about – by answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions he posted about on Instagram (and probably TikTok too). In this episode: There’s... The post Answering Cute and Spicy Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive has gone through a lot with their Dominant partner with consent violations, a broken D/s agreement, and just being made to feel awful. And they want to know if it’s possible to... The post Q&A: How Do I Trust My Dom Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online... The post Radical Honesty in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive who was once the Dominant in their power exchange wants to add their Dom energy back to the dynamic but isn’t sure how to talk to their partner about it. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do I Tell My Partner I Want to Switch? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,... The post Needing External Motivation in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve experienced “task creep” – the act of taking on tasks/routines that weren’t specifically negotiated. Thankfully for us, we figured it out quickly and worked it out in a quick conversation. But like job... The post Task Creep in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We don’t know how we’ve made it to 400 full-length episodes, either, but here we are! We didn’t get a lot of questions for this one, so we just sort of chatted until we... The post Celebrating 400 Episodes with Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re one week away from our 400th episode, so we’re starting the celebration early with a BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: Ask your questions for our Monday episodes. We’re celebrating 10,000 subscribers... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: We need your questions for our Monday episodes. The most common issue... The post Over Communication in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: are they the problem or is it me? Here’s the question: I’ve been dating a dom for about... The post Q&A: Is My Dom the Problem or Am I? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our power exchange. In this episode: We joke about Kayla’s control issues all the time.  The stereotype... The post Submission With Control Issues appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a submissive is ready to get back to their previous kink life but their partner might not be as ready. Here’s the question: I have a question with no easy answer. I... The post Q&A: How Do We Get Our Kink Life Back After Having a Baby? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Hair pulling inspired this week’s episode – because it was a grounding and/or centering moment in kink. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Friday night live stream on May 17 starting at... The post What Grounds or Centers You in Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive needs more commands and strictness from their Dominant to feel the power exchange, but they’re not getting what they need. Here’s the question: My kind sadist seems to be under the impression... The post Q&A: How Do I Help My Dom Act More Commanding? appeared first on Loving BDSM.