Life From The Top Of The Mind

“You can’t make people better by making them feel worse.” ~ Adapted from Pam Leo (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Trying to control everything and everyone will almost always result in our feeling ‘out of control.’” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“If there is one thing that is certain, it’s that we will always be dealing with uncertainty. The challenge, therefore, is to become certain about what we can know and control, which are the qualities and characteristics we are bringing to life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Questions are the search engine for the brain. Make sure you are searching the right data base.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“When the storms of life hit, the resilient adjust their sails.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Our frame of mind is determined by our frame of reference… best to create both of these by choice versus by chance.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"When people are being defensive, they aren’t just defending their position, they are defending their judgement… they are defending themselves!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life!” ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Self-righteousness isn't about confidence. It's a reaction designed to protect someone from the fear of what it would mean to be wrong." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least." ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Our 'emotional wake' is how we affect others after we have left the room. Let's make sure we are creating this effect on purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“There are too many people in the world today who decide to live disappointed rather than risk feeling disappointment.” ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Nothing is meaningless… it’s how we assign meaning to the past that determines how we experience the present, and future.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“All of life is a cycle of cause and effect. In order to break the cycle of stress and frustration we must do more than just change the cause or change the effect… we must become the cause.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"If our goal is to be influential, we must first ensure that those we wish to influence can't put 'You Stupid Idiot' on the end of anything we say." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Neuroscience tells us that our state of mind affects our body’s ability to fight off illness and get the sleep we need. Therefore, we must be purposeful about the former to be effective in the latter.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“As long as we use shame as a driver for self-improvement, or to learn from the past, we will forever be trying to do good by feeling bad… not a very effective strategy.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“In order to have as much influence as possible in our life and the lives of others, we must be careful (full of care) not to mistake the “what” (or the triggers in our life) for the “why” (the cause, or reason we react the way we do).” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“When we give unimportant people the power to trigger us, we make them the most important person in our life!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"When convincing others, unless what you are saying resonates with how they see the world, what they care about, and how they see themselves, the only thing you are convincing them of is that you don’t know anything about them." ~ Adapted from Lisa Cron (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)