Synopsis
Since 2010, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright have offered support, life management strategies, and time and technology tips, dedicated to anyone looking to take control while living with ADHD.
Episodes
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You Can't "Fix" ADHD
16/02/2021 Duration: 27minADHD is part of us. You’ll hear a lot of people talking about how they can help you “fix” your ADHD but they always seem to forget that first part. We’ve learned over the last few weeks about the nature of acceptance, of embracing the parts of us that are hard and approaching them with curiosity and courage. What happens when you fully integrate all of ADHD — challenges and blessings — into your identity? What can you learn about yourself and the way you face the challenges ahead?This week on the show, a meditation on fault, blame, and what it really means to fix ADHD. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:43) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (05:55) - You do not need to be fixed. (09:20) - The ADHD House of Cards (14:29) - The Experts on Acceptance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Acceptance and the Paradox of Change with Dr. Dodge Rea
09/02/2021 Duration: 53minYou might have heard of the stages of denial. But have you heard of the stages of acceptance? Dr. Dodge is back with us this week to share the similarities and differences between the two models and illuminate just how powerful it can be when discussing our relationship to ADHD.Links & NotesSubscribe to The Change Paradox with Dodge ReaThe Four Stages of Acceptance — Marty Cooper, MFTListen to Nikki Kinzer and The ADHD Paradox on The Change Paradox with Dodge ReaListen to Ted Klontz and Facing our Hardest Change Softly on The Change Paradox with Dodge Rea (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the ADHD Podcast on Patreon (03:14) - Introducing Dr. Dodge Rea (04:18) - Acceptance (07:04) - A bit about the paradox of change (15:07) - Stage 1: Denial (17:18) - Stage 2: Recognition (29:02) - Stage 3: Resignation (38:42) - Stage 4: Acceptance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Divorce, ADHD, and the Law with Seth Nelson
02/02/2021 Duration: 51minDivorce is one of the greatest challenges we face. Even the best of divorces brings an emotional cost. Living with ADHD, the costs that come from disorganization and distraction can be so much higher.Beyond the stress of disolving your relationship, embarking on a journey into the legal system brings with it a raft of uncertainty and doubt — a system that cares very little about your ADHD. This week on the show, Tampa-based divorce attorney Seth Nelson joins us to help us understand where our ADHD will be most pressured, and where a great law firm can help you pull your weight. About Seth NelsonAt Nelson Koster, the motto is “Helping good people through difficult times.” This is Mr. Nelson’s aim in every case, though how he works to achieve it varies greatly with each family’s unique situation.From an early age, he has always wanted to help people. After law school he found that he could do the greatest good by helping people through one of the most difficult times of their lives. Being a divorcee himself, a
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To Our Old Friend, Anxiety...
26/01/2021 Duration: 37minToday, we take a stroll down anxiety lane to talk about how it relates to ADHD and how you might find calm after an anxiety storm.The relationship between ADHD and anxiety is, in a word, tight. If you’re living with ADHD there is a significant chance you’re living with anxiety, too, even if you’re not genetically predisposed to the later. The research shows that what you need to do to address each condition depends on that very special pairing of your unique circumstances. Today, we review how the two conditions impact one another, how we live with anxiety in our own lives, and how we can step back, take stock, and find calm. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (02:50) - Support the show • Become a Patron! (07:52) - GPS: Guided Planning Sessions (09:42) - Our old friend, Anxiety ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Move On.
19/01/2021 Duration: 32min"Move on,” you say to yourself. And yet, you perseverate. You left work incomplete, you let someone down, you missed a deadline… you’re feeling the burden of those losses and yet, the world continues to spin. How do you maintain composure enough to be able to say with confidence that it’s time to move on, move forward, tackle a new challenge tomorrow and free your mind from the losses of today?Today we’re talking about perseveration: "repetitive and continuous behavior, speech or thought that occurs due to changes in cognitive skills such as memory, attention, and mental flexibility.” While perseveration is often connected to brain injury, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, or aphasia, it has a common connection to, you guessed it, attention. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (02:33) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (04:33) - Move On. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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2021 Q & A with Pete & Nikki
12/01/2021 Duration: 51minNew season, new questions! It’s been too long since we took on your fantastic submissions so we’re clearing the deck this New Year with discussion on ADHD paradoxes, health, ableism, and so much more.Along the way, head over to The Theme System to see what Myke Hurley and CGP Grey have cooked up with the release of their second edition Theme Journal!Can margin exist with hyperfocus? Can you be kind to yourself AND challenge yourself to be better? Are you keeping resolutions this year, or clearing out any tolerations? (The 2021 Purge!)How do you explain executive functioning to someone with no experience with it? What do you look for in an accountability partner?Hey Pete... how you feeling? Thank you to everyone who submitted questions — keep ‘em coming! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:31) - Support the show • Become a Patron! (05:12) - Margin vs Hyperfocus? (11:00) - Can you be kind AND challenge yourself at the same time? (17:10) - Do you have any resolutions or tolerations to take care of in 2021?
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The 2020 Memory Lane with Pete & Nikki
22/12/2020 Duration: 33minThis week, we’re taking a bit of time to reflect. No, 2020 hasn’t been the best year in recent memory. But does that mean we didn’t learn, grow, and change? Of course we did! Today, we talk about it.We’re sharing insights from clients and community members, guests on the show and more. Plus we have a list of tools that might just come in handy which we’ve adopted this year and have led to a little change in their own right.Links & NotesYouNeedABudgetMission ForwardThe Change ParadoxHow to Split a ToasterWhat's That Smell Season 5(!)ObsidianRoam ResearchGoodLinksAffinity Design Tools from SerifCoda.io (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:04) - Support the Show • Become A Patron! (02:24) - 2021 Livestream Recording Time Change (04:30) - The 2020 Reflection ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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ADHD & Self-Compassion: Learning to Speak to Ourselves with Love
15/12/2020 Duration: 27minWe’re not always the friendliest narrators of our own lives. Sure, everyone makes mistakes. Everyone is late to a meeting or call from time to time. Everyone has rough days. But if you’re living with ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve taken the practice of celebrating your perceived failures to an art form.This week on the show, thanks to the inspiration of the work of Susan David and her writing in and around emotional agility, we’re talking all about ADHD and self-compassion. If we’re adept at speaking to ourselves with bile, how will we learn, change, and grow? It turns out, there are steps we can take… and we’re going to try and take a few of them today.Links & Notes‘The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage’ – TEDTalk by Dr. Susan DavidSusanDavid.comGive Me That Panic Attack with Pete Wright — Pete’s guest spot on Systematic with Brett Trpstra (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:28) - Pete's Guest Bit on Systematic (02:10) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (05:43) - ADHD and Self-Compassion I
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Breaking Down an ADHD Challenge
08/12/2020 Duration: 34minYou know what it takes to break down tasks… we talk about that all the time. But what happens when you investigate the underlying ADHD challenge associated with it? You become an ADHD super-sleuth!To do it, you have to be crafty. You have to sneak up on the symptoms of your ADHD experience and recognize them for what they are. Then you have to test, and test again, changing your behavior bit by bit until you recognize that somewhere buried in your frustration and your personal sense of weakness… there is actually strength! Plus, Pete gets the chance to talk about Underpants Gnomes. How can you miss that? (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:50) - Check out Nikki on The Change Paradox (03:18) - Skunkface (07:49) - Listener Question: Striking out as an Entrepreneur? (14:58) - Breaking Down an ADHD Challenge (23:08) - Underpants Gnomes (28:06) - Discerning the "Why" ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Dr. Sharon Saline on parenting, anxiety and COVID at Home
01/12/2020 Duration: 40minDr. Sharon Saline has focused her work on ADHD, anxiety, learning differences and mental health challenges and their impact on school and family dynamics for over 30 years. She’s channeled this experience and expertise into her book, What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life. She recently published The ADHD Solution Deck: 50 Strategies to Help Kids Learn, Reduce Stress & Improve Family Connections.As we move into the winter months, the wake of the pandemic always just ahead of us, Dr. Saline is here to talk about ADHD Parenting under stress, particularly when COVID comes home.Links & NotesDr. Sharon SalineWhat Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life by Dr. Sharon Saline and Dr. Laura MarkhamThe ADHD Solution Deck: 50 Strategies to Help Kids Learn, Reduce Stress & Improve Family Connections by Dr. Sharon Saline (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the Show • Become
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Procrastinating with Lynne Edris
24/11/2020 Duration: 47minWe all let things slide. But procrastination with ADHD can lead to a set of behaviors that are tough to reset. This week on the show, ADHD coach Lynne Edris joins us to talk about her work with clients to do just that. Lynne is a productivity and ADHD coach and co-host of the award-winning ADHD Support Talk podcast. Lynne specializes in helping professionals struggling to reach their potential due to challenges with disorganization, procrastination, poor time-management, weak follow-through, and having too much on their plates. She’s a fantastic resource and we’re thrilled she’s joined us this week to help!Links & Notes CoachingADDvantages.comSubscribe to ADHD Support Talk PodcastFollow Lynne on FacebookConnect with Lynne on TwitterConnect with Lynne on LinkedIn (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:37) - Support The ADHD Podcast • Become a Patron! (02:50) - Introducing Lynne Edris (04:55) - Procrastination, burnout, and rest (08:02) - Procrastination at work (16:08) - Last-Minute Propulsion (25:34) -
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Taking Care of YOU is Taking Care of Your ADHD
17/11/2020 Duration: 38minWe’re back from The 2020 Virtual International Conference on ADHD and this year, we’re not just back as attendees, but as presenters. The big message of the conference was about taking care of your bod, so we’ve got some takeaways that you can use to get inspired to get moving and not feeling overwhelmed in the process.The research is in, and has been for some time: moving your body moves the chemicals in your brain and serves as a key anchor in your overall ADHD intervention. This, plus a healthy relationship with sleep and diet, form the foundation to treatment and can impact the way your body reacts to stimulation, medication, and so much more. Conference keynote speaker Dr. John Ratey’s book Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain offers some exceptional detail for those interested. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:48) - Support the Show • Become a Supporting Member (03:02) - The Conference Online (11:46) - Conference Lessons ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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At the Corner of ADHD Avenue and Panic Street
10/11/2020 Duration: 27minWe’re on the edge around these parts, pressured by the environment, the overwhelming weight of politics in the US, and all the associated symptoms that come with it. Pete’s been pretty open about his brand of COVD experience. He thought it was over only to discover last week that there are new, surprise issues cropping up and what the medical team is asking of him has sparked some inescapable ADHD behaviors leading to one of the darker weekends of recovery. What happens when your ADHD symptoms run into your healthcare requirements and spark panic? That’s this week on The ADHD Podcast with a personal story from Pete. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Growing Up with Undiagnosed ADHD with Tara Koch
03/11/2020 Duration: 35minIt's not easy being missed, especially when you know you're not quite relating to the world the same way your peers are. For Tara Koch, like so many in our community, the ADHD diagnosis came decades later, childhood long gone. What came with her diagnosis was an open door to learning about herself, her kids, and even set her course for a new career. This week, ADHD coach Tara Koch joins us to talk about her experience growing up missing the ADHD diagnosis, and how ADHD has impacted her life since. Links & NotesTara Jane Koch — ADHD CoachSubscribe on YouTube (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:48) - Support the Show – Become a Patron! (01:55) - Introducing Tara Koch (17:23) - The ADHD Mom Perspective (28:29) - The Diagnosis (30:59) - Coaching ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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Inattentive ADHD Misdiagnosis with Dr. Michelle Frank
27/10/2020 Duration: 41minDr. Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist specializing in providing diagnostic and treatment services to individuals with ADHD. She joins us today to talk about inattentive ADHD and the struggles that come along by way of misdiagnosis.Nikki shares the story of her own family’s struggle with getting an inattentive diagnosis and Michelle walks us through the difference between inattentive and predominately hyperactive types to give us a sense of how and why inattentive ADHD gets missed. In addition to coming away with a clearer picture of why the inattentive type is missed so often, Michelle offers us a set of questions to ask of ourselves, our children, and their teachers and caregivers that will help us uncover the hidden signals of inattentive ADHD.Links & NotesThank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon!Follow Michelle on InstagramA Radical Guide for Women with ADHD: Embrace Neurodiversity, Live Boldly, and Break Through Barriers by Michelle Frank and Sari Solden — Amazon.comAbout Dr. Miche
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In the Shadow of the Haunt List: Productivity with Dr. Marilyn Paul
20/10/2020 Duration: 45minDr. Marilyn Paul is a coach and organizational change consultant. She joins us today to talk about how to break the addiction to productivity without shame, free to own our ADHD brains, and get things done our way.Her mission is to support people to learn from and find value in their difficult experiences. She’s been through her own challenges with ADHD over the years, translating them in the best-selling book, It’s Hard to Make a Difference When You Can’t Find Your Keys. Her second book, An Oasis in Time: How a Day of Rest Can Save Your Life, offers us fodder for a conversation on the how the ADHD brain can escape the inescapable: the cycle of shame that comes from trying to live up to impossible productivity standards, while not feeling able to get anything done.Links & NotesMarilynPaul.com (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:52) - Support the Show: Become a Patron! (01:54) - Introducing Dr. Marilyn Paul ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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ADHD Stresspectations
13/10/2020 Duration: 30minWe’re stressed! Clients are stressed. Kids are stressed. We’re all stressed. Why? Because when you’re living with ADHD, you’re getting more negative messages thrown at you like so many darts than those without. And because we set such high expectations for ourselves, those negative messages leave us feeling so much more deflated!This week on the show, we’re talking all about the expectations we set for ourselves that cause us nothing but stress, and how we can work toward emotional freedom in spite of our ADHD symptoms! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (03:41) - Support the Show • Become a Member! (08:16) - Why ADHDers Set High Expectations (12:25) - The Salve for Ill Intentions (18:18) - Contaigion (20:46) - Setting Realistic Expectations ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
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ADHD Parenting Principles with Dr. Russell Barkley
06/10/2020 Duration: 55minDr. Russell Barkley has been something of a firebrand in the ADHD community for over four decades. With twenty-five books — 43 separate editions — and his name behind numerous assessment scales and journal articles, he has established a career of education and advocacy in the field second to none. Today, Dr. Barkley joins us on the ADHD podcast.He’s here, ostensibly, to tell us all about his new book — 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD — but the conversation quickly turns toward advocacy, the tangible dangers of ADHD as a disorder, and the lives lost because too many dismiss it. We talk about the role of genetics and parenting and the role of each in ADHD. We hope you join us today; it’s an incredible honor for us to have Dr. Barkley on the show and are grateful to be able to share it with you all.Bonus! His team was kind enough to offer us a 25% discount on the new book! Click here to get it now!Links & NotesThe works of Dr. Russell BarkelyJoin The ADHD Study Hall! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD
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Parenting Complex Kids with ImpactParents’ Diane Dempster & Elaine Taylor-Klaus
29/09/2020 Duration: 52minThey may have pivoted to parents, but Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus still bring every bit of their Impact! Today they join us to talk about parenting complex kids in a complex era along with Elaine’s new book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and More.Along the way, they share incredible insights on the parent-child relationship. Ensuring that you’re on your kiddo’s team, consequences and punishments, owning and transferring ownership of responsibilities, growing up ... it’s all on the table this week with Diane and Elaine, plus they share the story behind their pivot from ImpactADHD to ImpactParents!Links & NotesFreebie gift: Book Bundle BonusFacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInYouTubePinterest (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:21) - Support the show — Become a Patron! (02:40) - Follow-up (09:12) - Welcome Elaine and Diane! (11:01) - Rebranding for Complex Kids (16:40) - Shifting Life's Responsibilities (24:49) - About the Book (27:23) - Executive Age and Relea
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Study Habits For the ADHD Student
22/09/2020 Duration: 31minIf you’re a well-practiced student, you probably have your own system and set of practices for doing that job. Taking notes, studying, preparing projects, taking exams ... you know what works for you, right?It turns out, it’s pretty easy to develop a false sense of security in our own systems to the point that they might not actually be helping you do the real work of being a student. This week on the show, we offer the timeline for effective study habits — originated at the University of Arkansas — a simple, straight-forward process to help you learn to study effectively and deliver the results you want.Links & NotesTimeline for Effective Study Habits (PDF)Anki FlashcardsQuizletNotetakingI know, these are both iPad Pro focused, but I encourage you to watch them for process, not technology, if you’re thinking about how to engage in material.