Sex Talk with Lou

PART B with Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. who is one of my favorite guests. Diana and I will discuss online dating + 40s, red flags in conversation with a date, AARP survey results for sexual satisfaction, current trends in sexuality, why masturbation is healthy, female brain vs male brain and sexual stimulation. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

Tonight Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn’t be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083

Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. is one of my favorite guests. She will share her 25 + years of Best Ideas, Techniques and Practices couples can use to stay connected, begin a connection or rejuvenate a connection. An expert on AGING & SEXUALITY, Dr. Diana highlights that lust, laughter, and love need to be kept as priorities in order to improve longevity and enhance quality of life as we evolve and mature. Her comment is “Any age is a great age to strip off the sexual "shoulds" - remembering that sex is play, not work!” Now shall we add people are sexual throughout their lives and this population wants information tailor made to their needs? Pregnancy isn’t an issue, flexibility is so they want best options after hip/knee replacement. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

My guest will be Monterey, CA based LMFT and D.S.T., Stephen Braveman. A multi-talented sexuality therapist who specializes in a wide variety of psychological and sexual issues. We will start with the heavy stuff and discuss his work with men who are Adults Molested as a Child and his part in Oprah’s final show featuring men who had been sexually abused. We’ll talk about the healing and hope in the PSA “You are Not Alone” from the Monterey Rape Crisis Center. Stephen also specializes in gender and transgender issues and also presents on the Sacred Sexuality/Tantra connection. He is the co-author of CPR for Your Sex Life which is like having a sex therapist’s reference manual in your hands. Divided into the C’s, P’s and R’s it is A Guide and Workbook for Couples to breathe life into a Dead, Dying or Dull Sex Life. www.bravemantherapy.com, stephen@bravemantherapy.com, 831-375-7553

As an advocate for good science to support our overall general health and specifically our sexual health I rely on hand picked scientific professionals to explain to me or discuss with me impacts and or potential sexual function impacts of medical or pharmaceutical products. My twin sister Di (Dede) Paget R.N., B.N. is one of those rare few. She and I will discuss how to determine good science for you and your family, what to be aware of when you read studies, Marcia Angell. M.D.'s book "The Truth About Drug Companies", Ben Goldacre's "Bad Science", and Cochrane Group www.cochrane.org as sources. We will also discuss STD vaccines eg) Gardasil, and why I won't recommend them, Dr. Diane harper head researcher states still the best prevention for cervical cancer is screening AKA the PAP smear not a vaccine.

Imagine being an IRS Revenue Agent for 23 years and discovering your passion is practical Sex Education for people of short stature and with disabilities. That describes Marylou Naccarato. Marylou lives by the credo, "There are those who wait for life to happen and those who make it happen." As a professional woman, mother, and short person Marylou believes everyone is disabled or differently-abled in one way or another. It is a matter of whether your condition is internal or external and regardless we all can have loving intimacy. Marylou and Lou will discuss her workshops, the most common sexuality issues for those with a disability, percentages of disabilities, acceptable terms for little people, the idea and design of her her Personal Activity Lounge, difference between and acquired disability and its impact versus a life long disability and her knowledge that you and you alone are in charge of your sexability. www.high10yourlife.com 818-929-5344

Ray Stubbs becoming a Sexual Shaman has been the evolution of his in depth and varied career as a sexuality educator and trained massage therapist. Ray realized there were many other levels of being able to merge, as one does at orgasm. He speaks of 4 ways to merge one's energy with another: on the physical, spirit, light and or soul planes. He describes the transcendent orgasmic levels of light, spirit and soul orgasms. His practical step-by-step seminars taught on skype worldwide can easily guide one wanting to explore sexual shamanism in the comfort and privacy of their home. sexualshaman.com

Sue Whitaker describes the parallel worlds that exist for entrepreneurs between your personal relationship and how you relate to your business. Her tips for how to fall in love with your business, how to deal proactively and constructively with competitors. The best advice her successful older brother gave her, DWGO - Deal With it and Go On. Check out her show on toginet.com, thebusinesslovemaker.com or suewhitaker.com

Through her show Fertility Forum and her counseling practice Phyllis Martin has stepped in to help guide couples and their relationships through the emotional gauntlet and unknowns of Infertility. Little did she know at 28 she would be part of the epidemic of infertility and become and expert on assisted fertility procedures, egg and sperm donors, adoption options and Child free living options. Through her own experiences she is "I've been in your shoes" counselor that couples can relate to. She is a volunteer at resolve.org an organization of people who have been through fertility issue s and can guide and support those new to infertility. The impact on relationships is profound and we want to do what we both can to keep relationships and people connected through an emotionally tough time.

My guest tonight is Susan Crain Bakos author of The Orgasm Loop Orgasm Loop: The No-Fail Technique for Reaching Orgasm During Sex. As a sex columnist and author of over 20 books on sexuality Susan was well acquainted with Sex Question #1. Women wanting to know how to have an orgasm during intercourse. Susan describes how she linked the three elements crucial for the Orgasm Loop recipe. Blend liberally, Fire Breathing, Contractions of the PC muscle and a martial artist's focus to move energy to one's clitoris. She had over 500 women test her Orgasm Loop process and it worked for 95% of the women.

Lou and Bill will discuss how he combined his Baptist clergy training with sexuality education as a result of his parishioners asking him questions he couldn't answer. In order to be a more effective minister he did his PhD in sexuality education. The importance of being able to see where people are coming from when dealing with a religious - sexuality conflict and the 3 types of sexual value systems. That we are all born sexual and spiritual. Best questions parents can ask themselves when preparing to talk to their children and themselves about sexuality. How to avoid Spiritual Abuse - when religious and sexual acts are disparate.

Lou and Mou discuss how Mou has established her unique therapy practice to address non-typical monogamous sexual lifestyles. How Mou got into this work, how same sex relationships can enhance our sexuality, and enhanced hers, and what she sees most commonly with couples and dealing with sexuality within relationships, and how societal views affect and have affected all of the above. How her musical training and hypnosis training augment the impact of her therapy.

Lou and Dr. Pacik will discuss and describe his new FDA approved study of intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia to treat vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where women are unable to have intercourse without discomfort. This is a relationship and intimacy robbing condition affecting 1 to 7 percent of women worldwide. For many women they spend years being misdiagnosed and receiving wrong therapeutic treatments. Dr. Pacik describes the entire treatment protocol that a patient and her partner would go through in his surgery center. His book When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy details the heartfelt stories of these women and his treatment for them.

Lou and Wendy Strgar, CEO of Good Clean Love, discuss what it actually means to be an organic lubricant. Why and how she started her company. It was from a very personal focus of maintaining intimacy in her marriage and discovering she was allergic to other lubricants that were petrochemically based and contained parabens. How the consumer has to be their own ingredient sleuth. The development of her Aphrodisiac Love Oils and how immediate and important our sense of smell is to our sex lives. Wendy has great 'tell-the-truth' site www.goodcleanlove.com

My guest tonight is Dr. Linda Mona, Licensed Clinical Psychologist who has advocated for the sexual rights and sexual expression of people with disabilities for over 15 years. Dr. Mona and I have done presentations for severely injured soldiers (female & male) on how to have them connect if single, reconnect if partnered and validate their sexual selves apart from their disability. For anyone who may be dealing with, or knows someone who is, the unique sexuality issues associated with disability, PTSD, TBI, or med impacts this is your show.

Dr. Whipple is one of the leading researchers and authors on female sexual pleasure, function and orgasm. Co-author of The G Spot, Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book. Lou and Beverly cover her naming the G spot,the wide variety of female orgasms that she wanted to validate, orgasms with spinal cord injury made possible by the vagus nerve that bypasses the spinal column, the complete lack of any published studies to support the G Shot marketed to unsuspecting women

Lou and Dr. Rubinstein of Sarasota Cosmetic Surgery, discuss the #1 reasons women and men undergo cosmetic surgery and how that impacts their sexual enjoyment and experiences. The blending in his practice of Allopathic and Alternative modalities to help a client's body and mind get maximal benefit. Use of anti-aging treatments and bio-identical hormones. The study of energetics when treating clients and how that impacts sexual experiences. The clients he won't treat. When labioplasty and penile augmentation are okay. That after 25 years he is equal parts therapist and physician when interviewing a prospective client. Becoming an informed consumer @ plastic surgery. 1 tip, watch how the office staff acts that is a big indicator of how you'll be looked after.

My guest will be Brynne Zaniboni, a coordinator and presenter for Los Angeles based High School Sex Educator. She is the first line of science based responsible choice information for these students to help prevent unintended pregnancies and STIs. Small classroom interactive presentations with the 'anonymous' questions allow students to get reality-based sex education in an environment that is peer positive and comfortable for them. Free iTunes download after.

Dr. Sherri Tenpenny is respected as one of the country's most knowledgeable and outspoken physicians regarding the impact of vaccines on health. She and Lou will discuss why one does not need Gardasil or Ceravix vaccines to prevent cervical cancer. How nutrition may be a curative solution for breast health. Dr. Tenpenny is an outspoken advocate for free choice in healthcare, including the right to refuse vaccination. As an internationally known speaker, she is highly sought after for her ability to present scientifically sound information regarding vaccination hazard and warnings that are rarely portrayed by conventional medicine. Most importantly, she offers hope through her unique treatments offered at Tenpenny Integrative Medical Center for those who have been vaccine-injured. Dr. Tenpenny is also an expert on women's breast HEALTH and the use of iodine for disease.

Dr. Neil Cannon and I will discuss current media articles and trends in sexual health. Neil Cannon has a Doctorate in Human Sexuality, a Master's in Public Health and a Post Graduate certification in Marriage, family Therapy as well as a Post Graduate Certification on GLBT, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual & Transgender Family systems. Demographics of kink people in US. Current online sexuality articles and what they really are discussing. Who his toughest clients are and why? The similarity Kink and vanilla couples. How a partner can introduce kink to a non-kink partner. Sex toy use introduction ideas. Neil Cannon