Why Are People Into That?!

Tina Horn and Girl Sex 101 Allison Moon both love to put their strap-ons in the butts of lucky gentlemen. What is it about this specific gender configuration (a cis-woman fucking a cis-man in the ass with a strap-on), this so-called “reversal of roles,” that has the incredible power to queer heterosexual intercourse? Some questions: What’s in your pegging kit? / What does the third sphincter do? / What pegging position does the swamp planet Dagobah bring to mind? / How is a strap-on like a pair of boots? LISTEN:

You’ll recall the meme featuring the great Iggy Pop wearing an evening gown alongside his quote: “I’m not ashamed to dress ‘like a woman’ because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.” This month’s episode is a discussion between two cisgender queer women who have both made a living for many years facilitating the fantasy of cisgender men to dress up in dresses, lingerie, heels, makeup, and wigs. Beginning with the premise that the very idea of “crossing” from one gender to the other is horribly outmoded (for example, both Tina and guest Morgana Maye were definitely both wearing pants during this conversation), these two professional dominants discuss the erotic possibilities and mind-bending politics of those who enjoy erotically embodying femininity without identifying as a woman per ce. Discussed: “Please explain me to myself” / The difference between erotic degradation, humiliation, and embarrassment /...  See aca

Can a size queen ever be satisfied? Maybe not, but why should she? This episode is a tribute to big cocks, giant hands, oversized vibrators, voluminous screams, zaftig bodies, and insatiable appetites. T.Pantherella has sold toys, instructed the sexually curious, and thrown her hip out during a burlesque act, so suffice it to say she knows all about things that take up space. LISTEN:   T. Pantherella is a Black queer fat-bodied femme kinkster. She is...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Tina wrote an essay for Nikki Silver’s upcoming book of photography, Unshaven, which collects erotic images of hairy women from Silver’s iconoclastic hardcore website, Naughty Natural. In this episode, Tina snuggles up in Silver’s four-poster bed to discuss everything they love about being hairy, and what other people love (and misunderstand) about unshaven women. Porn ideas brainstormed in this episode: 1. Hairy Armpit Smell-O-Vision 2. “You Could Always Get Caught” – a full-length hiking sex feature 3. HairyTorture.com featuring forced waxing 4....  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

S-L-U-T: she may be a slut but she looks good to me! That classic Todd Rundgren song may be stuck in your head after listening to Tina and Reid slosh around in a bathtub in Oakland California blowing bubbles and gabbing hard about sexual extroversion. Come for the orgy stories, stay for the cogent perspectives on love and dating from two of the world’s sluttiest sex educators.   Discussed: The Great Queer Vegas Orgy of 2012 / Dating Your Species / Leaving the Campsite Better / Have You Had The Blueberry Waffles? / Being in Love with Two People at Once / Falling in Love with a Sex Toy / Being Slutty with Yourself / The New Seduction is Being Honest / The Brain Chemistry of...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sex drives technology, no doubt about it. In this week’s episode, journalist Melissa Gira Grant gives Tina a history lesson in cam girls: how they’ve gone from surveillance performance art to social media microcelebs to the future of sex work. From commercial hardcore Skype shows to nonconsensual revenge porn, this episode traces the evolution of naked digital representations. Discussed: Setting Your Watch by a 3 Minute Dildo Show / Stoya’s Instagram Feed / A Man’s Voice Enters the House Through the Telephone / The Vanguard of Personal Boundaries / Sitting On A Cake / Menstruation Porn / The Worst Thing That Could Happen to Fake Julia Roberts / Information Overload This episode also features a preview of Rachel Kramer Bussel’s new book of essays Sex and Cupcakes! LISTEN:

Why do we get off on the things that scare us? That’s the question Tina posed to her old friend Mickey Mod, along with very special guest co-host Quinn Cassidy. As a long-time veteran in front of and behind the sex industry camera, Mickey has a lot to say about the reasons that fear sells porno. This dreamteam threesome ate a lot of nachos, sipped some fine liquor, and talked some serious talks about race, power, and desire. Fear-based Content / Can Porn Heal The World? / The Same Body Over And Over / The Myth of the Black Male Rapist / Race Play versus Interracial Porn / “We are so good at war” / The Social Good of Satire / Watercooler Conversations about Tentacle Hentai / LISTEN:

Pain, discipline, rosy-red butts – there’s a lot to love about spanking, and a lot of loaded questions to ask about it, too. One of the most prominent mainstream journalists to tackle those issues these days is Jillian Keenan, who has written extensively about her own spanking fetish. She reveals a bunch of emotionally honest and nerdily physiological explanations into why spanking is such a turn on for her… and our host… and probably most of our audience, too! Discussed: Kiss me Kate / The Kink Gateway Drug / Shakespearean Cunt Jokes / Down the Rabbit Hole / Playing House / Little House on the Prairie / Commonilliac Artery / Oxytocyn / S2 Spinal Levels Nerves / Fetlife / Trust LISTEN:

What’s your fantasy? Crack your knuckles and do your carpal tunnel exercises: it’s time to talk about porn! Journalist Anna Breslaw just might be changing women’s magazines from the inside, and in this episode she sits down with Tina to answer some tricky questions about nudie pics and blue movies. Why do people like watching other people have sex? Why do people keep trying to tell us there’s something wrong with that? What is the connection between Linda Tripp, the Duke student who outed Belle Knox, and the 4chan Fappening? What does David Duchonvy keep in his secret sex cave? Did Ludacris really have sex on stage at a Ludacris concert? Find out in Episode 16! LISTEN:

International Ms Bootblack 2011 kd diamond is an accomplished artist: and she’s also a card-carrying leather fetishist. In this episode, kd opens up her boot care kit and lets us peek inside. We learn how integral bootblacks are to the Leather Scene, and how taking care of leather clothes can represent service, worship, or simply hot kinky sex. Discussed: How To Always Smell The Glove; The Smokiest Batch of Huberd’s Grease; Commodity Fetishism; NYC’s Submit Play Party; How Is A Bootblack Like A Hairdresser or Bartender or Grillmaster or Massuese: Learning About The World With Your Mouth; Leather for Vegans; Always Tip Your Bootblack This episode also includes a sneak peak at Sinclair Sexsmith’s Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut! That entire interview is on our Soundcloud page!

Conner Habib’s personal library gave Tina Horn such a big brain boner she kinda just wanted to roll around reading and smelling his books all afternoon. Because that’s the kind of creep she is. Instead, she pulled it together and asked the writer, porn star, and advocate to discuss the Occult. How is magic related to sex? Why are gay sex and BDSM such a threat to those in power? What’s the most psychedelic thing you can do while masturbating?  Discussed: “What if these crazy things are true?”, Helvetica: the Font of Fascism, “Does this blow-job make me look fat?”, Pernicious myths, Intoxicated with love, Consent, Castro steam room sex, Black magic and white wizards, Evil in David...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Cocktease, striptease, tease and denial… For Episode 13, Mitra Kaboli, the producer of that other amazing sexy podcast Audiosmut, came over to talk about how much she loves to be teased. We talked about the delicious tension of long, slow foreplay, and we also dug into more serious social questions of sexual entitlement. Discussed: Sex monsters /  Tickling / Excitement / Boundaries / Dates /  DTF / Intimacy / MakingOut / First Base / Consummation / Horniness / Satisfaction / Play / Silliness / Checking In / Consent / Dirty Talk / Being in charge / Build / Surrender / Coax / Desire / Climax / Yearning / Restraint / Pacing / Inner Thighs /  Arousal / Rubbing One Out / Polyamory / New Relationship Energy / Lust / Habit / New Moves / Flirting / Spank...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dicks! Dicks! Dicks! Episode 12 has more cock talk than any YAPIT episode yet! My guest is Nayland, an interdisciplinary artist who knows a whole lot about the sexual fetish of chastity devices and orgasm control. In his own words, “Cocks are ludicrous” and this episode has lots of ideas for consensually exploiting that wonderful fact. Discussed: ownership, predicament bondage, tease and denial, mini iron maidens, frustration, conditioning, long distance submission, Maid Marion’s Everlast chastity belt, sensory depravation tanks, being locked, being a key holder LISTEN:  

In Side B of Episode 11, Sarah Patterson and I discussed the myriad motivations of people in the sex trades. Whether you work on the street or in a dungeon, on camera or in a private room, with your voice or with your body, every sex worker faces staggering stigma against the legitimacy of the labor they do in exchange for the things they need. What happens when the need to make a living intersects with human sexual desire? How do those needs jive, and how do they clash? Sarah and I speak from our own experiences in the industry, as well as what we’ve learned from our various communities. LISTEN:  

Last October, I was sharing a modest office studio space in Bushwick with one of my favorite organizations, the Persist Health Project. One day, the Executive Director of Persist, Sarah Patterson, and I got coffee and vegan deli sandwiches and sat in our little white room for almost two hours talking about sex work. We challenged ourselves to ask both: Why Are People Into Hiring Sex Workers, and Why Are People Into Doing Sex Work (the later question being not as much about personal sexual desire so much as it is about examining what motivates people to do sexual labor). This week’s episode, Side A, focuses on why people enjoy watching porn, going to strip clubs, and hiring private service providers. Discussed: Is it cheating to go to a strip club? Is there such a thing as porn addiction? If sex work was legalized, would it still turn us on? Why are some kinds of sex work legal and some not? How does whorephobia and sex worker stigma become internalized and...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy

It’s our 10th Episode! There are a hell of a lot of sexual desires that Igancio could explain to us, and we’d eat our hats if they didn’t have a story to tell about it that made us weak in the knees. We are really glad we settled on “squirting” because the personal anecdotes they shared sort of made us squirmy and giggly and forget our notes, which is pretty much what you wanted out of this podcast, right? But seriously, folks, what does it mean to talk about “female ejaculation” with someone who identifies as gender fluid? Does the g-spot really exist (hint: yes.). Hang on to your Liberator, cuz it’s Why Are People Into Squirting? LISTEN:

I am a blithering fangirl for Siouxsie Q’s podcast The Whorecast – in many ways, it continues to inspire me to make YAPIT. When Siouxsie and I met at Catalyst Con, we tumbled into predestined JournHOlist/whorenalist love at first sight. We snuggled up with Siouxsie’s prized My Little Pony blanket and Frederick the Bear for a very personal discussion of Age Play. What is the erotic appeal of a consenting adult pretending to be younger than she actually is? Siouxsie was brave enough to open up to me about the Little Girl part of her identity, and how being Little affects her sexuality, her creativity, and her emotional life. I also got to learn what it was like to win San Francisco’s Little Ms Little contest! LISTEN:

OMG SHOES!! When James Darling stopped by my New York City apartment, he immediately spotted one of my prized possessions: a pair of black leather Jimmy Choo 4 inch stiletto high heels. Boy’s got taste. James and I had some fun with those shoes in a porno once… and that strut down memory lane inspired us to talk about high heel worship! We discussed the femme phallus, trampling, and the precautions you might want to talk before inserting the heels into your holes. LISTEN:   James Darling is a multiple award winning...  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Opinionated “intelligent hedonist”. Savvy business-woman. Frat boy trapped in a the body of a gorgeous lady. Kelly Shibari can come sit on my couch and tweet all about it any day. Sometimes it seems Kelly gets tired of always being asked about big girl sex, so we tried to broaden our conversation to the more general topic of “Why Are People Into Size?!”  Listen in as we speculate about the business end of body politics in porn, and invent a machine that shakes big boobs in your face while you work (patent pending). LISTEN:

In our continued commitment to post-modernity, Episode 6, “Why Are People Into Exhibitionism?!” with very special guest Carol Queen was recorded live in front of an audience at Catalyst Con East last March … which means that Tina and Dr. Queen talked about the love of having sex in front of other people in front of other people. Of course, Exhibitionism is about more than getting off on being watched while you fuck. It’s about all kinds of arousal that comes from all kinds of being seen. As Tina and Carol explored, it can be about dressing up and showing off, making money by dancing naked, or sending someone a picture of your genitals in the mail. And of course, where would exhibitionists be without voyeurs like our live audience and listeners like you? Listen in as Tina riffs on all this and more with her hero, a legend in her own time, Dr. Queen. Discussed: The Lusty Lady, consent, talking to yourself while masturbating, putting on a show, getting...  See acast.com/privacy